Let me write about my feeling based on personal opinion.
Everyone has emotions, which is defined as a feeling. Humans have many emotions, such as happiness, sadness, anger, fear, or hatred, based on your situation or the people you are with. I realized that ‘it’s okay if you are feeling angry or sad because we are human’ and feeling emotional is fair. Once in a while, we invalidated our feeling and thought it was unfair because everyone required us to keep happy and fine. At the same time, we feel sad and tired of everything in this world, but we must be happy.
Moreover, when we express our emotions, some people think it is not reasonable. We have to accept what they did to us. Sometimes, we have to accept someone’s jokes unrelated to us. In addition, it is also hurtful for several people. Nonetheless, some people never realize what they do to us by underestimating ourselves. How to know about that? They will reply with some words and sentences:
“It is just a joke. Why do you feel offended?”
“You are so emotional. Why do you feel offended about that?”
*Laughing, then bullied someone who feels offended* “I need you to calm this person”
The person do not validate our emotions we are with (to be honest, I hate these people because they underestimate us). They think if we still accept what they talk about. They are never realized because they never feel it or might be one of the people victimized by others. Furthermore, most of them are never learned their behavior.
It happens because they assume that normal and negligible. Their circle thinks it’s normal, but it is the wrong mindset. The reality is painful, but we have to heal ourselves. On the cards, they also have a wound which to heal. Afterward, they wreak to other people.
Is it a true way? No, it is not. They should heal to psychologists or find a way to heal their selves. We have to validate our emotions. However, people do not validate our emotions. We have to know and understand our emotions.
Creating a boundary for ourselves is important to avoid people hurting us.
