I was being overshared person on social media a few years ago. Someday, I realized the impact of oversharing was bad for me. Some impact was I overreacted to everything. When I feel offended by someone, I will share everything that I thought to quip myself. Moreover, the biggest impact of oversharing on social media is bullying, which is implicit, but I never realize that. Everyone loves to follow the drama; they will follow your drama quietly. Hence, I thought it was also one of the addictions to social media. Furthermore, rather than being more horrible, I reduce my over-sharing. I keep updating my life but not all the time on Instagram, Twitter, and Quora.
I was oversharing in Quora one year ago. When someone offended me, I would share my opinion and make war. I’m aware the impact is not good. Everyone loves to see the drama. People who overshare are easy to bully and have personal conflicts. The personal conflict I feel is when I think it’s okay to share everything, but someone shares with another for seeking drama, creating some fears (or maybe trauma). It has a big impact and disserves me.
That day, I realized I did not need to share everything on Quora and Instagram. I was on hiatus on Quora for a month. Furthermore, the impact was good. I chose to share English and English Literature also a general personal experience. Voila! It had a good impact on me. I don’t have a personal conflict with everyone.
Then, how to stop oversharing on social media?
First, I create a schedule for posting on Instagram.
On the second day of 2022, I chose not to update the story. I attempted for seven days. Moreover, I was confused because when I wanted to share, it confused me, “Should I share this one?”. Then, I thought, “No, you do not share this one. If you want to share, you have to share seven days later,” and I kept it for myself. I did the same thing, and I passed it.
On the first day, it was insane because I thought someone would not know my life. Nevertheless, on day three, it became normal, and I realized, “Oh, it was not a big deal,” It was a good impact on me because it reduced my overreaction. On day five, it was a good day, and I became happier because I did not need some validation from everyone. On day seven, I thought, “oh, I need to update a book or some knowledge and opinion for everyone” then, voila, I updated my life.
Reduced to update your life on Instagram and Quora is good because you do not have to share everything. On the contrary, I would share everything in WhatsApp except when angry because I restricted a contact I had saved. I am merely saving 127 contacts, and it had a good impact on me. What are the impacts? The impacts are good for me because I could sort out whether one must share or not. In addition, it also impacted other social media such as Quora and Twitter. On Twitter, I don’t know what I have to write my personal life because I am reduced to oversharing on Instagram.
Next, one of the good impacts is I do not to be an overreaction person. When someone offends me, I can take several minutes to calm down and think about how to respond. Generally, when someone offends me, I will update everything on WhatsApp and Instagram, but now I choose to take time to think and calm myself.
Second, the extreme one is detoxing a media social and deactivating all media social accounts.
It is a better decision if you feel tired of social media. Detox social media have a good impact. I had been social media detox in March and April. On the first attempt, I deactivated for 7 days, and in the next week, I tried to get off social media for 14 days. It did not full social media because I’m still watching TikTok.
Next, I was signed out from Twitter for 3 months. It began from February to July or august. I’d sign out of Twitter because someone said that my addiction to social media was high. So, I decided to get off Twitter. On the first day, I was confused and anxious because I did not know the news, but seven days or two weeks later, I felt better, and I’m not addicted to Twitter.
It felt calm and increased my focus time. Hence, it makes you more mindful rather than before.
The impact of social media detox is good! I do not care about people. I’m still looking for gossip, but it is not addicted as before. I’m still focused on myself and keep upgrading myself to be a better person. I began my hobby again (reading). Likewise, I started to find good habits, such as exercise, writing, meditation, reciting al-Waqiah and al-Mulk every day, doing the Dhuha prayer, and so on. It takes time to build the habits, but the result is good. It increases my focus on doing something.
Third, Private your account and do not make a second account.
The second account is a good chance to overshare everything. We think people we follow on the second account would not share what we think. On the contrary, it is wrong. Everyone loves to gossip. Moreover, if they get a piece of hot news about ourselves, they will tell their friends. Hence, I have three accounts, but it makes a difference. The public account I used to share my book and some opinion which is the general opinion. Sometimes I share a poem. The main account is used to share culinary and some tips for people. I still have a third account, but I do not follow everyone.
Furthermore, it is some tips to stop oversharing I’m still sharing about my life, but I choose to restrict what I share. You can try these ways and you will find the result.
